We’re Cate and Darrell; an Aussie Swinger Podcast team &amp; couple who share their journey into the Swinging Lifestyle. Join us as we talk through events, sex positive reviews, our journey and interview Swingers from all over the world. 

Previously called Swinging Downunder Podcast

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories
EP198 – Cap D Agde Desires, What’s in the Box and How to Small Talk
Cate’s fresh back from Miami (just her this time!) and while we only touch on that wild weekend, we’re diving deep into what’s really heating things up: our return to Cap d’Agde in 2025, a brand new sex toy, and Darrell’s spicy fantasy.
In this episode, Darrell receives a mystery box that leaves Cate both suspicious and very curious. Spoiler alert: it’s a new toy — but it’s not one we’ve ever used before. Unboxing it live kicks off a conversation about impulse sexy buys, techy pleasure, and how this toy might play into fantasy fufillment.
We’re also answering a great listener question from a hotwife couple in New Zealand: How do you make small talk in the lifestyle when talking about work and kids feels out of place? From flirting in loud clubs to deep connection at weekend events, we’ve got practical tips, sexy one-liners, and a few hilarious fails to share.
And finally — we’re going back to the Naked City! Cap d’Agde 2025 is on the horizon and we’re already fantasizing about beachside play, group massages, and balcony sex in the hot Mediterranean sun. This isn’t just a trip — it’s a sexual state of mind.
 
What you’ll hear in this episode:
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Mystery Box Reveal: Darrell’s new toy arrives and Cate’s imagination runs wild
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Lifestyle Small Talk: Flirty questions, fun energy, and how to connect without asking about someone’s 9–5
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Cap d’Agde Desires: Why we’re going back and what (or who) we want to do when we get there
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Darrell’s Fantasy: How we're fulfilling it without putting anyone at risk
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Be A Better Swinger Tips: Mindset matters — whether it’s packing for Cap or chatting up couples at a club
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Links:
Website: <a href='http://www.wanderlustswingers.com'>www.wanderlustswingers.com</a>
YouTube: <a href='https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers'>https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers</a>
Libertine Events – Texas Takeover: <a href='https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio'>https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio</a>
Email: <a href='mailto:email@wanderlustswingers.com'>email@wanderlustswingers.com</a>
 
Are you coming to Cap d’Agde in 2025? Do you have a fantasy you’re dying to try? Or want to see what was in the box? Drop us a line — we love hearing from you!
 
Tags:
Cap d’Agde, Swinger Podcast, Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Lifestyle, Sex Toy Reviews, Fantasy Play, Open Relationships, Swingers Club Tips, Lifestyle Small Talk, Hotel Takeovers, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Libertine Events, Voyeurism, Group Play, New Sex Toys

Wanderlust Swingers - A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories

Cap D Agde Desires, What’s in the Box and How to Small Talk

How does sexual trauma affect your lifestyle journey?
Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of sexual trauma, abuse, and emotional triggers. Please take care while listening.
In this vulnerable and powerful episode, Cate is joined by trauma-informed coach Meshai from <a href='https://www.expansiveconnection.com/enm'>Expansive Connection</a> to explore what happens when past trauma meets lifestyle play. Cate also shares her personal experience with sexual trauma — opening up publicly for the first time.
Whether you’re navigating your own healing, supporting a partner, or just want to be a more compassionate and informed member of the lifestyle, this conversation is essential.
What we cover:
✔ What sexual trauma looks like in lifestyle spaces
✔ Common triggers during play or events
✔ What partners and playmates need to understand
✔ Cate’s story
✔ How to create trauma-aware swinger environments
✔ Supporting survivors without needing every detail
✔ Why trauma must be part of the conversation
✔ Real tools for safer play and stronger connections
 

Resources & Support:
1800Respect – <a href='https://www.1800respect.org.au'>www.1800respect.org.au</a> | 1800 737 732
RAINN – <a href='https://www.rainn.org'>www.rainn.org</a> | 800-656-HOPE
Rape Crisis UK – <a href='https://www.rapecrisis.org.uk'>www.rapecrisis.org.uk</a>
SurvivorsUK (for men) – <a href='https://www.survivorsuk.org'>www.survivorsuk.org</a>

Let’s talk about it.
Share this episode with your partner, club community, or friends in the lifestyle.
The more we talk, the safer we all become.
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YouTube: <a href='https://www.youtube.com/c/ShamelessNonMonogamywithSDU'>https://www.youtube.com/c/ShamelessNonMonogamywithSDU</a> 

Tags:
Sexual Trauma, Swinger Lifestyle, Trauma-Informed Play, Non-Monogamy, Consent Culture, PTSD and Sex, Ethical Swinging, Open Relationships, Trauma Support, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast

Sexual Trauma and the Swinger Lifestyle: What You Need to Know

Wanderlust Swingers – A Swinger Podcast & Hotwife Lifestyle Stories
Cate and Darrell revisit soft swap play for the first time in seven years — and it happened at none other than Fun4Two, the iconic swingers club in the Netherlands. What started as a night out turned into a wildly sensual experience filled with connection, chemistry, a six-handed massage… and yes, some cum on the floor.
We explore the dynamics of soft swap play, the assumptions people make about it, and whether full swap couples are missing out by skipping over these intimate encounters. Cate also makes a hilarious faux pas, and offers a boss-level club tour move, and together they reflect on how chemistry can totally eclipse categories.
Here’s what you’ll hear:
🔹 The Night at Fun4Two: From flirting at the bar to hands-on tantra and one unforgettable group experience
🔹 Soft Swap Revisited: Why it felt complete, hot, and unexpectedly fulfilling — even without PIV
🔹 Redefining the Rules: Thoughts on how vague soft swap definitions can create confusion and missed connections
🔹 Club Tips: How to stand out in a room full of lingerie and boots 
🔹 Red Flags, Green Flags & Play Pitfalls: Advice for newbies and seasoned swingers alike
🔹 Listener Reflections: Juicy comments from the community about the pros and cons of soft swap dynamics
Plus, life updates! Cate’s heading to Miami, Darrell’s off to South Korea, and someone just turned 40… but we’re not talking about that, okay?
Links:
YouTube: <a href='https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers'>https://www.youtube.com/@WanderlustSwingers</a>
Website: <a href='https://www.wanderlustswingers.com'>www.wanderlustswingers.com</a>
Join us in Texas this October - Libertine Events : <a href='https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio'>https://libertineevents.com/sanantonio</a>  
Is soft swap the underrated gem of the swinger world? Rediscover it with us in this sexy, playful, and thought-provoking episode.
 
Tags: Soft Swap, Swinger Club Play, Full Swap vs. Soft Swap, Fun4Two, Swinger Podcast, Ethical Non-Monogamy, Hotwife Stories, Open Relationships, Lifestyle Tips, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast, Non-Monogamous Adventures

Rediscovering Soft Swap at a Swingers Club Fun4Two Netherlands

In this important episode, Cate speaks with Steve Gagne, owner of Wicked Fun Club, a private members-only lifestyle venue in Connecticut that has recently been issued a cease and desist order by the Town of Plymouth.
Only five months into a three-year lease, the club is now in the midst of a legal and political battle that raises serious questions about privacy, zoning laws, and stigma against non-monogamous communities.
Steve shares what really happened, how it’s affecting the club and its members, and what the community can do to support. This episode goes beyond local politics—it's a wake-up call for everyone in the lifestyle.

“This story isn’t just about one club in one town—it’s about how adult freedom, privacy, and community values clash in the real world. Whether you're in Connecticut or California, we all have a stake in the lifestyle's right to exist safely and respectfully.” ~ Cate, Wanderlust Swingers Podcast


In this episode, we cover:
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What Wicked Fun Club is and who it serves
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The zoning issue and cease and desist order
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Tensions between the club, the landlord, and the neighboring church
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The broader impact on lifestyle members and safe spaces
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The current appeal process
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What support is needed from the non-monogamous community
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How this story affects the lifestyle space nationwide
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Links and Resources:
Wicked Fun Club Website: <a href='https://wickedfunclub.com'>https://wickedfunclub.com</a>
News article on the shutdown: <a href='https://www.nbcconnecticut.com/news/local/town-orders-terryville-swingers-club-to-close/3534958/'>NBC Connecticut</a>
Reddit review thread: <a href='https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/1ifwwzv/wicked_fun_club_review/'>r/Swingers discussion</a>
Learn about club rights: <a href='https://ncsfreedom.org'>https://ncsfreedom.org</a>

Stay Connected:
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Twitter: <a href='https://twitter.com/swingdownunder'>@swingdownunder</a>
Website: <a href='https://wanderlustswingers.com'>https://wanderlustswingers.com</a>

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