Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.

A woman's old friend and sometime lover asked her for a beaver shot to ease his stress on an upcoming couples trip. She obliged. Did he thank her? No he did not. She's miffed, and wonders if she's being too sensitive. 

We love questions like this: What do gay men actually do with vibrators? 

Our guest is the indomitable E. Jean Carroll. She is a journalist and the author of five books, including a biography of Hunter S. Thompson, and The New York Times bestselling book NOT MY TYPE: One Woman vs. a President. After Donald Trump sexually assaulted her in 1995, she notably beat him in court, twice. She and Dan have a frank, funny convo about the courage it took to face Trump and his legal team, how the assault impacted her sex life, and how most politicians are cowards. Dan and E. Jean clearly love each other, and also divulge an insider advice columnist hack. E. Jean Carroll is a hero and belongs on a votive candle. A little of this interview is on the Micro, and the whole thing is on the Magnum. 

A woman with mental health challenges can't get off when her partners wear condoms. Now she's pregnant, and plans to get an abortion. She feels like a fool for getting into this situation. What are her options in the future and are there other women out there who have the same problem? 



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A cute li'l gal worries she just isn't a very convincing dom. How can she use psychology to establish her sexy top role? 

A newly out pan man is ready to dive into gay culture. But he isn't quite ready to shave his pubes! Does he have to?

On the Magnum, Dan chats with novelist and television writer Kashana Cauley. (Author of The Payback and The Survivalists.) They talk about the pleasure of dystopian novels in a dystopian present, on being a clotheshorse, the student debt crisis, setting boundaries in kink and more! 

A very androgynous AFAB person has a ton of pull with both men and women. But they are new to the gay cruising scene and want some tips on navigating those entrancing homo spaces. 



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Do I HAVE to Shave My Pubes?

"Not generous." That is what a gay man puts on his app profile to signify that he is not interested in sex workers. Is this offensive? 

Hear the heart-warming tale of how a woman spiced up her sex life by creating an Onlyfans account for only one fan- her husband. 

A gay man loves going to "gay island." It's a small gathering space in a river where queer folks can be together in a chill, clothing-optional way. But guess who is invading Gay Island! Straight families bring their kids to bask in the homo glow. Dan welcomes queer artist and writer Leo Herrera, to talk about the importance of gay spaces, and then they go into a deep dive about AI porn, and sex robots. There's a little on the Micro and the whole thing is on the Magnum. 

And, a man has been married thrice. For each wife, he reversed his previous vasectomy and then got a new one, without ever telling them that he'd done this. Should he come clean about all the vasectomies to his current wife? And seriously, what is up with this guy? 



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Third Vasectomy’s a Charm?

A woman is grappling with the dubious ethics of financial domination. Her friend asked her to do it, and she made a quick, easy $1k. But she knows that it is addictive and can ruin men's lives. Should she continue? 

A gay man is being bothered to distraction by his straight pal who teases and dominates him. They work together. Driven wild by lust, the caller worries that if he acknowledges the dynamic and shares his feelings, all will be lost. 

On the Magnum, the dog ate her vibrator. You heard that right. The dog ate her vibrator and broke it. It ran on batteries and had more settings than she needed anyway. What should she replace it with? We bring on our star, beloved cartoonist/sex toy reviewer Erika Moen to advise. 

And, a very special After-Action Report! 





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