I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

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What drains your energy the most?   How do you deal with toxic behaviors?   Today, Jay tackles a topic we can all relate to – dealing with those challenging family members and coworkers who add a little extra stress to our lives, especially as the holiday season rolls around. If you’re already bracing yourself for gatherings with people who seem to bring more tension than joy, Jay’s got you covered. He dives into why certain people fall into negative or toxic patterns, breaking down types like the pessimist, the complainer, the eternal victim, the energy drainer, and the “just good enough” person. Jay’s perspective sheds light on how these behaviors aren’t really who they are at their core but are often habits born from past hurts or unmet needs. Jay doesn’t just stop at explaining, though – he shares some really practical, relatable tips on how to navigate these tough dynamics without letting them throw you off balance. He talks about ways to respond with empathy, set emotional boundaries, and even gently redirect conversations when they start to drag you down.  In this episode, you'll learn: How to Handle Toxic Family Members at Gatherings How to Protect Your Peace Around Negative People How to Set Boundaries with Draining Coworkers How to Turn Negative Conversations Around How to Recognize Negative Patterns in Loved Ones How to Stop Taking Toxic Comments Personally You can’t always change someone else’s behavior, but you can protect your own joy and keep a positive outlook. So, as you head into those family gatherings or work meetings, just remember to stay grounded and prioritize your well-being – you deserve it! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:24 How Do You Deal with Toxic People? 03:26 What Makes a Person Negative or Toxic? 04:34 Type 1: The Pessimist 06:06 Type 2: The Complainer 08:05 Type 3: The Eternal Victim 10:19 Type 4: The “Just Good Enough” 13:19 Some Toxic Behavior is Meant to Protect You 15:13 Tips and Strategies to Deal with Toxicity 17:12 Tip 1: Try to Understand Their Story 19:01 Tip 2: The Negativity Begins with Themselves 22:47 Tip 3: Respond with a Reflective Remark 24:05 Tip 4: Create Distance and BoundariesSee <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

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4 Types of Toxic People in Your Life & 4 Tools to Stop Letting Them Drain You

Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?   Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships? Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners. Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles. As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations How to Practice Wise Compassion How to Break Negative Patterns How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships How to Prioritize Clear Communication How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: <ul> <li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li> <li aria-level="1">02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age?</li> <li aria-level="1">05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters</li> <li aria-level="1">08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time</li> <li aria-level="1">13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship</li> <li aria-level="1">17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate</li> <li aria-level="1">21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection?</li> <li aria-level="1">24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner?</li> <li aria-level="1">28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires</li> <li aria-level="1">31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate</li> <li aria-level="1">35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story</li> <li aria-level="1">37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries</li> <li aria-level="1">42:36 We All Want to Be Liked</li> <li aria-level="1">45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet</li> <li aria-level="1">49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time</li> <li aria-level="1">52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating</li> <li aria-level="1">57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping</li> <li aria-level="1">01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person?</li> <li aria-level="1">01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages</li> <li aria-level="1">01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage?</li> <li aria-level="1">01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue</li> <li aria-level="1">01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt</li> <li aria-level="1">01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner? </li> </ul> Episode Resources: <ul> <li aria-level="1">Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiIETTq2It3OzW8_WYRPTyQ">YouTube</a></li> <li aria-level="1">Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/">Instagram</a></li> <li aria-level="1">Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://lorigottlieb.com/">Website</a></li> <li aria-level="1"><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696">Dear Therapists Podcast</a></li> <li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Should-Talk-Someone-Journal/dp/0358667216?ref_=ast_author_dp">Maybe You Should Talk to Someone</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Lori Gottlieb: 7 Answers to Dating Questions You’re Afraid to Ask & How to Break Free from Relationship Timelines

Do you ever try focusing on just one thing at a time? What’s one way you avoid distractions? Today, Jay’s diving into a struggle we all know too well: distraction. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling on your phone without even thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. Jay breaks down why it’s so hard to stay focused in a world full of constant notifications and packed schedules. But this episode isn’t about making us feel guilty—instead, it’s about giving us simple, doable strategies to actually make focus easier. Jay’s packed this episode with practical tips, like creating “no-phone zones” at home and setting tech-free times during the day to really be present. One of the standout strategies he shares is the Pomodoro Technique—working in short, focused bursts with breaks in between to keep your brain sharp and productive. Jay’s main message? Real productivity isn’t about doing more, faster—it’s about doing things better. He even shares some unique Ayurvedic advice, like chewing each bite 32 times (yes, really!) to emphasize how slowing down can improve our lives. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Slow Down for Better Productivity How to Stay Present in Conversations How to Find Calm by Unplugging How to Build Stronger Focus Habits How to Reclaim Your Attention By setting intentional boundaries, slowing down, and practicing mindfulness, we can take back our attention in a way that enhances productivity, deepens our relationships, and brings peace to our daily lives.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:46 Have You Been Feeling More Distracted? 04:03 What Research Says About the Decline in Focus 06:12 Majority of Us Can’t Multitask 09:00 Doing Things Slower Makes Better Progress 11:43 #1: The Pomodoro Technique 13:38 #2: No Tech Zones, No Tech Times 15:56 #3: Go For a Walk, Stay Off Your Phone 20:34 #4: Finish What You StartSee <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

4 Simple Habits to Boost Focus & Stop Getting Distracted

How do you handle negative self-talk? What helps you overcome self-doubt? Today, Jay sits down with Grammy Award-winning artist Alicia Keys as she shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and holistic living. Alicia founded <a href="https://www.keyssoulcare.com/">Keys SoulCare</a>, a skincare line emphasizing holistic well-being, and is a co-founder of the initiative She Is the Music, advocating for gender equality in the music industry. The conversation sheds light into Alicia's evolution from a young girl with dreams to an icon balancing a multifaceted career. Jay and Alicia discuss the highs and lows of fame, navigating self-doubt, and the pressures of public life, providing listeners with valuable insights on managing stress and fostering a positive self-image. Alicia reflects on her childhood fears and the challenges of finding self-worth, candidly revealing how these experiences shaped her. She emphasizes the importance of staying grounded through practices like affirmations, journaling, and mindful rituals—habits that help her stay true to herself amid a whirlwind career.  Jay and Alicia then talk about the beauty of affirmations and the importance of letting go of perfectionism, a journey that led Alicia to adopt a more holistic approach to life. In her partnership with husband Swizz Beatz, she finds a harmonious balance of "flow" and "design," where they support each other's growth and freedom. This dynamic extends to their parenting style, where they teach their children gratitude and self-acceptance while instilling a sense of humility and grace. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Embrace Your True Self How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear How to Find Confidence Within Yourself How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positivity How to Discover Your Inner Strength How to Set Boundaries for Self-Care How to Be Kind to Yourself How to Trust Your Own Choices The journey through self-doubt, fears, and external pressures highlights the importance of staying grounded, trusting intuition, and letting go of the need to seek others' approval.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: <ul> <li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li> <li aria-level="1">03:54 What Would You Say to Your Younger Self?</li> <li aria-level="1">05:34 When You Have the Need to Protect Yourself</li> <li aria-level="1">09:02 From Being Doubtful to Becoming Curious</li> <li aria-level="1">13:43 What Is Your Affirmation Today?</li> <li aria-level="1">15:30 Stop Being Mean to Yourself</li> <li aria-level="1">19:06 Finding the Will to Love Your Own Skin</li> <li aria-level="1">26:49 Spend More Time with Yourself</li> <li aria-level="1">32:14 The Gifts and the Gaps</li> <li aria-level="1">36:19 What Have You Learned From Your Partner?</li> <li aria-level="1">38:06 Having Healthy Conflict in Your Relationship</li> <li aria-level="1">45:53 Finding Balance Between Control and Flow</li> <li aria-level="1">47:51 The Love for Crystals</li> <li aria-level="1">51:32 Losing the Ability to Trust Yourself</li> <li aria-level="1">57:15 What Are Your Go-To Rituals to Feel Better?</li> <li aria-level="1">01:00:08 Teach Your Children to Practice Gratitude</li> <li aria-level="1">01:03:45 Allow Other People to Speak and Just Listen</li> <li aria-level="1">01:05:22 Creating Safe Space for Children</li> <li aria-level="1">01:09:35 Hell’s Kitchen on Broadway</li> <li aria-level="1">01:15:19 Be Clear with Your Vision</li> <li aria-level="1">01:22:12 How Have You Protected Yourself from Fame and Success?</li> <li aria-level="1">01:26:32 Alicia in Final Five</li> </ul> Episode Resources: <ul> <li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.aliciakeys.com/">Website</a></li> <li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK5X3f0fxO4YnVKVZP8p6hg">YouTube</a></li> <li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/aliciakeys">Instagram</a></li> <li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/aliciakeys/">Facebook</a></li> <li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@aliciakeys">TikTok</a></li> </ul>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

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