Welcome to Honeydew Me, a podcast that goes into the bedroom and beyond with your hosts Emma Norman and Cass Anderson. We believe that everyone deserves to have great sex, feel good in their bodies and love themselves and while we may not be experts, our guests are. Join us as we explore the ins and outs of sex, bodies, confidence, and all those burning questions you've been dying to get answered.

Self-trust isn’t just a cute idea, it’s the foundation for literally everything. This week we’re joined by Emily Romero, trauma therapist turned author and creator of The Self-Trust Model™, to talk about how to stop overthinking, start trusting your gut, and finally feel like you’ve got you. If people-pleasing, insecurity, or indecision have been running the show... this one’s for you.



We cover:


  
Why people-pleasing, overthinking, and low self-worth all come back to self-trust. If you’re stuck in “I don’t know what I want” mode, Emily breaks down how that’s not a personality flaw, it’s a self-trust issue.

  
What to do when you feel totally disconnected from yourself. Tired of second-guessing every decision? Here’s how to reconnect with your inner voice (even if it feels really quiet right now).

  
How to build self-trust without needing to be perfect. Trusting yourself doesn’t mean you always get it “right," it means knowing you’ll have your own back either way.

  
The sneaky ways we self-abandon in everyday life. From ignoring your gut to staying in the wrong relationship, Emily shares how to spot the tiny ways you break trust with yourself.

  
Why trying to be the “good girl” keeps you stuck. We unpack how internalized shame, pressure to perform, and perfectionism block you from feeling safe in your own body.

  
What sexual empowerment has to do with self-trust. Feeling confident in bed starts way before the bedroom. Emily explains how self-trust shapes desire, boundaries, and pleasure.

  
How to trust yourself during a big life shift (like a breakup or job loss). When everything’s changing, it’s easy to spiral. Here’s how to stay grounded and move forward with clarity.

  
The difference between fear and intuition (and how to tell them apart). Is it a red flag or just anxiety? Emily breaks down how to read your body’s signals and know what’s actually right for you.




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220. How To Actually Build Self-Trust and Finally Stop Second-Guessing Yourself

In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience. 



The Question: I’ve been with my partner for almost three years and I love everything about our relationship… except for the fact that he never compliments me. In the years we have dated he has never once told me I look pretty, hot, beautiful, nothing. I tell him often that I like his outfit, hair, shoes, that he looks hot, etc. but he never reciprocates. He makes me feel very loved in other ways, but this in particular is slowly making me very insecure about myself. How do I balance my own self-esteem with wanting to feel approval and desire from my partner?



What We Cover:


  
Your needs are important and valid. We unpack why your emotional and physical needs in a relationship matter just as much as your partner’s (and how to stop minimizing them).



  
Real talk on having a brutally honest conversation with your partner. What it looks like to drop the “cool girl” act and actually say the hard things you’ve been holding in.



  
How to advocate for your needs in and out of the bedroom. Practical scripts and strategies to help you speak up, without feeling like you're asking for "too much".



  
Communication strategies that actually work. We break down simple, clear ways to communicate your needs without spiraling into conflict or shutdown.



  
How to build up your self-esteem and sexual confidence. From the stories you tell yourself to the way you show up in your body, we walk through the internal shifts that make a real difference.



  
Balancing self-worth with partner validation. We explore how to recognize when you're outsourcing your self-worth to your relationship and how to 




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219. Q+A: "What Should I Do If My Boyfriend Doesn't Compliment Me?"

Ever get hit with a wave of anxiety, sadness, or anger and think, “Cool, but what do I do with this?” This episode is your answer. We’re joined by somatic coach and nervous system expert Béa Victoria Albina, NP, MPH to talk about exactly what to do when big feelings show up (without spiraling, shutting down, or pretending you're fine). We’re talking mini, step-by-step action plans for managing anger, sadness, and anxiety in the moment and how to stay fully present when you’re actually feeling good (because joy can feel scary too). You’ll walk away with grounded, science-backed tools to help you regulate your nervous system and feel fully capable of feeling your damn feels.


  What to do in the moment when you feel anxious, sad, or angry. Instead of spiraling or shutting down, try these quick, specific tools Béa shares to move through emotions with intention and grace.

  How to regulate your nervous system when you're overwhelmed. Learn small, science-backed shifts to lean in and ground yourself when emotions hit hard.

  The connection between the nervous system and your emotions. Béa explains why your body reacts the way it does and how understanding your nervous system can change your relationship with feelings.

  Why big joy can feel just as overwhelming as big sadness. And what to do so you don’t shut down when things are actually good.

  How to stop gaslighting yourself when you're having a hard day. We unpack the internalized beliefs that tell us to “suck it up” and offer alternatives that actually support healing.

  The surprisingly powerful tool of naming what you feel. (Yes, it actually works and here’s how to do it.)

  How to stop managing emotions with productivity. We explore why many of us cope by “doing more” and how to shift into actually feeling more without falling apart.

  Scripts for saying what you need without the guilt. Whether you’re with a partner, a therapist, or just trying to validate yourself, here’s how to express what you need clearly and compassionately.


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218. Mini Gameplans for Big Feelings: Exactly What to Do When You're Feeling Sad, Angry, Anxious—or Even Happy

Who decided being single has to be a pit stop on the way to something better? In this episode, we’re showing you how to make your single era the main event. Think solo date nights, orgasms (duh), reframing everything you thought you knew about singlehood, and building a life so good it turns heads. Being single isn’t a gap, it’s the glow-up. 



What We Cover in This Episode:


  
Why singlehood isn’t a “pause” in your life, it’s the glow-up. We reframe being single as an expansive, intentional chapter, not something you’re just surviving until your next relationship.

  
How to build a life that turns you on. From friends to creativity to pleasure, we dive into what it means to design a life that lights you up from the inside out. 

  
The real reason timelines make you feel behind (and how to break free). We unpack the fear-based messaging around age, marriage, and milestones and how to stop letting them run your love life.

  
How to date yourself with the same energy you’d give a partner. We walk through what it actually looks like to show up for yourself emotionally, romantically, and sexually.

  
Tips for creating the perfect solo date night (that ends with pleasure, not loneliness). We share our go-to structure for solo dates—including a downloadable guide you can find HERE—to help you feel connected, sexy, and satisfied.

  
Why redefining intimacy is key to thriving in your single era. We explore how to create intimacy through friendships, rituals, and self-connection no partner required.

  
How to stop confusing being alone with being unworthy. We break down the loneliness lie and how to reclaim your worth, confidence, and joy while solo.


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