Educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. The eight-part series is a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Mo, Dr. Nagoski debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality. Come As You Are will help you unlock your most pleasurable life, in the bedroom and beyond.

New episodes drop on Wednesdays.

Lead production by Monique LaBorde.

Come As You Are is produced by Pushkin Industries and Madison Wells.

Show art by Sofie Birkin.

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Here's an episode of a new show from Pushkin, Other People's Pockets. Have you ever wondered how your friend bought that vacation home or why that colleague of yours makes everyone meticulously split the tab down to the last Diet Coke? Other People's Pockets is a show about other people’s money. Host Maya Lau asks people from all walks of life to get radically transparent about their personal finances in order to learn more about who we are and level the playing field a little bit along the way. In this episode, Maya sits down with Mistress Marley, a financial dominatrix who makes money from people whose kink is simply giving her lots of cash, without being physically touched in return. Mistress Marley talks bondage, real-time reparations, and why her clients think giving away money is a turn-on.
Hear more from Other People's Pockets at <a href="https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/opp?sid=caya">https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/opp?sid=caya</a>.See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

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Introducing Other People’s Pockets: Mistress Marley, Financial Dominatrix

Today, we’re sharing a preview of one of our favorite podcasts: Shameless Sex. Join April and Amy as they inspire radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Shameless Sex is unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist. Today’s clip features return guest and badass sex-ed priestess, Layla Martin, to talk all about how to have the best sex of your life. Listen to learn why she says "If you want to f**k a Goddess then you have to know you're a God". Find out more at <a href="https://shamelesssex.com">ShamelesSex.com</a>.See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

From Shameless Sex: How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life - With Layla Martin

A listener in his eighties wants to know if there’s an expiration date on his sex life, and how to reconnect in the bedroom with his wife. Luckily, Emily is writing a new book about sex in long-term relationships. She delves deep into what the research reveals about couples who sustain a strong sexual connection over many years. Plus, she shares practical, science-backed sex advice on aging and navigating your changing body.
 
If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show.
Books mentioned by Emily: 
<a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/magnificent-sex-lessons-from-extraordinary-lovers-a-dana-menard/14324686?ean=9780367181376">“Magnificent Sex” by Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz</a> 
“<a href="https://blackgirlsguidetosurvivingmenopause.com">Black Girls Guide to Surviving Menopause” by Omisade Burney-Scott</a>
“<a href="https://heathercorinna.com/project/what-fresh-hell-is-this-perimenopause-menopause-other-indignities-and-you-a-guide/">What Fresh Hell Is This?” by Heather Corinna</a>
<a href="https://askdoctornan.com/book/">“Why Good Sex Matters” by Nan Wise</a>
<a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/couple-sexuality-after-60-intimate-pleasurable-and-satisfying-emily-mccarthy/16384748">”Couples Sexuality After 60” by Barry and Emily M</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

The Science of Great Sex in Long-Term Relationships

This week, Emily answers a question from her producer, Mo, about consent. Mo and her girlfriend are considering a new sexual experience but they’re not both an “enthusiastic yes” on the idea. Mo’s girlfriend joins the conversation, and they delve into the idea of “enthusiastic maybe” in consent and how to handle all the comfortable, joyful, and consensual “maybes” that can come up in sex. A heads up before listening: in this conversation, we touch on difficult topics such as coercion and manipulation in sex. If this episode brings up some feelings for you, check out our resources below.
If you have a question for Emily, call the Come As You Are hotline at (646) 397-8557‬ or send a voice memo to emily@pushkin.fm. Tell us your pronouns and pseudonym (pick a name, any name!) Your question might be answered on the show. 
 
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 
<a href="https://www.angelachen.org/ace">“ACE: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire Society” by Angela Chen</a> 
Emily learned the language of “willing consent” from <a href="https://www.suzanneiasenza.com/">Suzanne Iasenza</a>
For more on “human givers” and “human winners” read “<a href="https://www.burnoutbook.net">Burnout</a>” 
<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@emilynagoski">Emily’s Tiktok</a> 
Emily’s definition of consent: “Everyone is glad to be there and free to leave with no unwanted consequences. Plus, there is no unwanted pain.”
 
CONSENT AND SURVIVOR RESOURCES: 
RAINN <a href="https://www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent">on consent</a> and information for <a href="https://www.rainn.org/national-resources-sexual-assault-survivors-and-their-loved-ones">sexual assault survivors</a> 
<a href="https://www.nsvrc.org/survivors">National Sexual Violence Resource Center</a>
<a href="https://metoomvmt.org/explore-healing/resource-library/">Me Too Movement Resource Library</a> 
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